July292014
ashleeyfieeld:

http://weheartit.com/entry/8007837

We all fall down from time to time. Try getting up and painting a smile on. :)

ashleeyfieeld:

http://weheartit.com/entry/8007837

We all fall down from time to time. Try getting up and painting a smile on. :)

(via bettybreakup)

July272014

lastminutegenius:

Graphic designer Victoria Siemer, also known as Witchoria, has digitized the experience of heartbreak. Through a series of images that superimpose Mac error messages onto Polaroid pictures, the Brooklyn-based artist creates intimate narratives using language many computer users encounter every day. The result is surprisingly poetic; the photographs read like poignant one-sentence stories. 

You can view more images from “Human Error” and follow her on tumblr here and check out Siemer’s work on her Instagram.

Aren’t these brilliant?

How we all wish it were this easy.

9AM

dazedandcotoured:

So after being single for about a month now I know I made the right decision. It sounds crazy but I’m actually enjoying my time alone, even dumb time alone like doing homework on a Tuesday. I was SO codependent on my boyfriend that I literally gave up everything to spend time with him, that scares me. I’m ready to see what this life has in store for me next.

I LOVE THIS!

See, it gets easier, it gets better, and when you learn from something you have grown as a person :)

July262014
“I was addicted to the way you pretended..”

(via itsannaliousbabe)

I know it can all feel like a lie when it ends and you’ll probably never get closure in the way that you want it (For them to tell you it was real, that they felt every second of it too).

For men particularly, it appears as if they switch off and in a way that’s true. Once they’ve decided that’s it, there’s no going back. It hurts a girl like hell and it makes it feel completely surreal, like it was all pretense but the fact is that it probably wasn’t.

If the person who is now out of your life was actually pretending then screw them, you are better off without them. Concentrate on wedding out the pretenders in your life and keeping the genuine souls. 

July242014
That is strong. Soon it will be a week, a month, six months, a year. Soon you’ll realise you just ARE strong and it’s not about anyone else.

That is strong. Soon it will be a week, a month, six months, a year. Soon you’ll realise you just ARE strong and it’s not about anyone else.

(Source: praying-to-be-happy-again)

6AM
Memories don’t have to break you. If they are too painful, put them in a box (metaphorically) until you can look back with ease.
And yes, we all break promises, not just the person who left you. It’s just the way we’re made. We say things that we really hope we will always mean, but sometimes it turns out that we can’t mean them anymore.
Be ok with that. Own that.

Memories don’t have to break you. If they are too painful, put them in a box (metaphorically) until you can look back with ease.

And yes, we all break promises, not just the person who left you. It’s just the way we’re made. We say things that we really hope we will always mean, but sometimes it turns out that we can’t mean them anymore.

Be ok with that. Own that.

(Source: praying-to-be-happy-again)

July222014
bettybreakup:

Remember this. They wouldn’t have hurt you like they did if they were the person you thought you loved.

bettybreakup:

Remember this. They wouldn’t have hurt you like they did if they were the person you thought you loved.

July202014

Anonymous said: This week my boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me... let me rephrase that, this week my boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me... via text message. I was blindsided by this and never saw it coming, he told me he was unhappy and couldn't force himself to be happy anymore. But I had no idea he felt this way. We have had many ups and downs in our relationship but I thought he was the one I would spend my life with. How do I get over his betrayal and move on when all I want is to be with him?

Firstly, I’m sorry to hear that and secondly, what an ass. The lack of respect he has shown for five years of both your lives is shocking. Move on and don’t look back. Men appall me with their ways of dealing with difficult situations.

Now, the hard part. You are probably in so much pain right now, and I can refer you back to my previous articles, even right at the beginning of my blog if you have time to go back. There are many different pieces of advice for you in those early stages.

If you can, get angry. This was an awful way for him to break up with you and you deserve better. Anger moves you on more quickly and will help release some of that raw emotion that you are no doubt feeling.

Try not to consider the five years a waste, you probably both grew as people and have learnt alot about life and love in that time. Put that in a box for now and realise that there is more love and learning in your future, you have to get ready for it.

Do the things you like, treat yourself really well. Go buy something you like, have that chocolate sundae, whatever it is.

Get a new hobby - I repeat this to death but it completely changed me as a person when I got into watersports. I never would have considered it when with a previous boyfriend and it introduced me to some new cool guys who I never would have met otherwise. This was just a great bonus - I also made new friends, had new places to hang out and I got fit. Ticked every box and after a few months I felt like a million dollars. This is why I repeat it to people regularly. I KNOW it works, therapists know it works and this is why it’s in every advice column and blog you’ll see. Try something he would never consider! GROW!

Try to get to acceptance that it’s over. It will probably take a little longer than you’d like but the more positive you are and stronger you convince yourself you are, the better you will feel by day.

At the start, take one day at a time, even by hour if you have to. See how long you can fake feeling happy for, then it gets easier and one day you wake up feeling ok. Then try happy weeks etc… again, the faking it tricks your brain and body and suddenly you’re feeling a whole lot better.

It was a long relationship and you may need more help pouring out your feelings so it could be good to talk to a therapist. Don’t be ashamed of your tried, anger and even denial. It’s all very normal and it’s a process.

I’m sure you’ll get through and I know you will come out better for it. I have, more than once.

July192014
bettybreakup:

I’ve experienced this. More than once.

bettybreakup:

I’ve experienced this. More than once.

(Source: babynaate)

July182014

Anonymous said: I feel so forgotten. My ex and I stopped talking completely and I just found out they are dating some one else. I feel like I am so easy to replace . I'm trying to move on, I really am. But lately I get so sad about the whole situation

Oh, I’ve been here. He also happened to move on with a friend of mine, and I was expected to be “FINE” about it by mutual friends. I couldn’t discuss it with anyone because it would show I still actually cared and how could I when we hadn’t even spoken in months?

The best thing you can do for yourself is realise that your ex is 100% NOT the one for you. Try and get excited about the possibilities out there. This means that there are others you are meant for, others who will be better for you and to you. It’s a rough part of life and people do move on, some more quickly than others. It hurts like hell.

In conversation with someone last night I was explaining that it’s hard but keep whatever light you have inside you and nurture it. At the end of the day we have friends, lovers, family etc but the only person who can make you feel better is YOU. You actually owe it to yourself to make yourself happier. It’s ok to grieve but try not to let it consume you.

It’s an oft-repeated piece of advice but getting a new hobby helps, for many reasons - you’re learning something new, having new experiences, likely meeting new people and it has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR EX. It’s good for that reason alone.

Good luck!

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